bleak...That's the word my wife used to describe Thanksgiving dinner at my grandmother's. I guess I don't disagree. My dad is sick, he's lost maybe 20 pounds. My grandmother is taking care of him with my brother's help, and at 86 she is finally showing signs of slowing down. She's too old for this. My brother barely spoke to me the whole time we were there. I don't know if he's pissed at me because the burden of taking care of Dad is falling on him or what, but... anyway. Bleak.
Meanwhile, we stayed at my Mom's instead of a hotel, which we never do, but we're broke. My Mom shares a house with another woman whose life is like a ticket to the fucking Jerry Springer show. Her daughter must be about 26. She has 2 kids around the same ages as mine (9 and 4 - you do the math.) I'm not sure if they have the same father or not, but her ex-husband is currently in Florida hiding out from a warrant for a failure to appeal to a child support hearing. (His claim was that he went to Florida to "get away from the drugs" in Baltimore. Yeah. Because there are
no drugs in FLORIDA!!) Now it turns out that her brother (also 26) has just had two kids. Two months apart. BY DIFFERENT MOTHERS!! I mean, fuck... it's not a CONTEST, kids... keep it in your fucking pants. And to top it all off, while we were there, my Mom's housemate had to drive to Annapolis at midnight to bail him out of jail on domestic abuse charges.
My wife is morbidly fascinated by these people. I try to pretend they don't exist. I think my wife is most appalled by the fact that they make no attempt to sweep any of this under a rug. They post court summons on their refrigerator like they are straight-A report cards.
Anyway, we try to keep our kids away from this household. The way they raise their children is just frightening. The 9 year-old boy's favorite movie when he was 4 was "Signs". By the time he was 7 it was "Saw II". He was a bloody machete-wielding slasher-movie killer for Halloween this year. Anyone see anything but prison in this kid's future? And the tradition continues. For a while on Friday Baby Mama #1 was over at the house with the new baby and her 3 year-old son (Yes, from a different father. My Mom says she's an ex-pole dancer. I'm not sure if she's joking, but god, I hope that's true.) The three year-old boy spent the whole time we were there in the other room playing "X-men" on the Xbox. It's rated "T" for Teen. We made our NINE-YEAR-OLD leave the room.
The point is, not only did I have to endure all of this, but I had to endure my wife TALKING about all of this to ME, and then again to HER relatives on Friday night. I find it endlessly tiresome as a topic of conversation. It pains me to even post about it.
It took us 7 hours each way to get from NY to Baltimore, which is insane. (We've made it in 4.5 hours before on non-Holiday weekends.) We did some Black Friday shopping at 5:30 AM, which is MORE insane. Black Friday was cute when it was something that only the truly dedicated crazies did, but now that you are EXPECTED to go to Circuit City at 6:00 in the fucking morning... it's just stupid. There is nothing in the world I want badly enough to stand in those lines. We had better luck at the smaller places like Office Depot and Old Navy, although we didn't really buy any GIFTS. My wife got a $29 printer/scanner/copier for herself... I got 2 new sweaters... who the fuck cares about XMAS SHOPPING??
We took the kids to see "Enchanted" later in the afternoon. It was cute enough. There are enough adult-targeted gags to elicit a chuckle. (Not to mention Patrick "McDreamy" Dempsey to hold the attention of the moms in the audience... and maybe no small number of the dads.) I won't give away the funniest bits. I'll just mention 2 things. Taking 2 kids to the bathroom THREE TIMES during a 1h40m movie? What the hell? I'm glad they weren't old enough to go see Lord of the Rings in the theatres. Second of all... there were NINE movie trailers before the film started. The one that caught our attention the most was for a horrible looking, formulaic Chick Flick called "PS, I Love You" starring Hillary Swank. Her husband dies and he leaves her all these letters telling her to go certain places at certain times... it looks really bad. So why did it catch our attention? Because it CO-stars, in what look like teeny-tiny roles, both Gina Gershon (Bound! Showgirls!!) and Jeffrey Dean Morgan (Denny - the "Patient McHeartTransplant" dead guy from Grey's Anatomy, also the dead husband-on-videotape from Weeds. I'm surprised he's not playing the dead husband in THIS movie too!) So the wife and I are both GASP!-ing out loud at the trailer, at the appropriate moments. We can probably wait until video, though. That way we can rush upstairs and have sex right after.
(I'm not sure I mentioned this last week, but I'd like to thank the producers of the [crappy] Grey's Anatomy spinoff "Private Practice" for casting Taye Diggs as one of the doctors on the show. Yay for Wednesday Night Sex! After 10 years, whatever gets things going... one doesn't argue.)There was also a trailer for the sequel to that fucking AWFUL Nick Cage movie "National Treasure". You know... that movie where they had to steal the Constitution out of the Smithsonian's vault, because it had a secret first draft of The DaVinci Code written on the back? Or something like that. Well the sequel looks even WORSE. The wife leaned over and said - "That looks like such a trainwreak that we HAVE to go see it." It's the same as the White Trash Family with her! No matter how bad it is, she has to watch.
Anyway, the holiday is OVER now, and I have craploads of work and grading to catch up on. I took my grading with me on the trip, which was just the worst kind of self-deception. It's time to take a deep breath and dive into the pile now.
One Month Until Xmas...